The Truth Teller (A chapter excerpt)
Just as scripture refers to Christ’s teachings by saying, “the truth shall set you free,” that, too, is the motto this slacker lives by. Without you asking, he will tell you the reason you’re broke, that you need to lose weight, the reason why your marriage isn’t working, or why you aren’t married in the first place.
It’s bad enough that it’s none of his business, but he insists upon telling you ‘the truth’ about yourself without any consideration of your feelings. For him, these have no place in the equation at all. Far from setting you free, “the truth” is that his words shall actually hold you back! There are usually only a few outcomes to such unsolicited advice a.k.a “truths”: the person on the receiving end tunes the “truth teller” out completely; the person on the receiving end is wounded by this person’s version of truth and believes this person’s judgment; or the person on the receiving end strikes back. The truth teller may even convince himself that he is justified because, after all, it was his “duty” to tell the truth.
It is fair to say that the truth teller would be hurt if he were to receive even a tiny dose of his own medicine, however. The real truth is that the truth teller needs to be told that Jesus did all things – even correction - in love.
James 3:17 says, “But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.”
A sincere truth teller, as a Christian, should be sensitive to his friend’s demeanor, and want his friend to benefit from his love so that he or she might flourish, rather than wither under the weight of words filled with malice.
1 Corinthians 13:1 says, “If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.”
You know what cymbals sound like when loving hands are playing them? Angelic. Harmonious. Calm. Serene. You know what cymbals sound like when played off beat, by rough, inexperienced hands? Noise. Let’s not be noise.
If you know someone who fits the description, copy and share the link as you wish. But before you do, do a self-check, Saint, to make sure you don't do it, too.
Read more Slacker Profiles in Confessions of a Faithful Slacker: 7 Steps to Renewing Your Relationship with Christ.